I loved learning about these four stages - thank you! And yes to this…
“These meditation sessions and conversations are now informing the creation of new schedules at home that reflect how we’ll all get our needs met. To me, this is so much better than succumbing to the usual fall energy of allowing other people’s schedules to drive our lives, and to squeeze our needs to the margins.” Goals!
I’m so glad to hear this. And it’s goals for us too! I mean, look, I can’t control when the school bus comes, so there’s that. But as I get older and have less energy, I’m just finding it’s much easier to note the rhythms that tend to meet our needs best, and to build a life around that where we can, than to give away our agency over 100% of the way our days look, because that leads to burnout. What has your experience been with balancing these things?
Envious of your school bus! In our city, we have to get our kids to school on our own - though transit is free for kids, which is nice. I’ve been thinking a lot about the rhythms of my life and how to make everything work better. I’m noticing when I need to rest. I’m listening to myself more. Exercising, meditating, making time for friends. And definitely writing! It makes everything feel better. I’ve explored topics like learning to say no, setting boundaries with people who are just hard, figuring out my values and prioritizing self-understanding.
I loved learning about these four stages - thank you! And yes to this…
“These meditation sessions and conversations are now informing the creation of new schedules at home that reflect how we’ll all get our needs met. To me, this is so much better than succumbing to the usual fall energy of allowing other people’s schedules to drive our lives, and to squeeze our needs to the margins.” Goals!
I’m so glad to hear this. And it’s goals for us too! I mean, look, I can’t control when the school bus comes, so there’s that. But as I get older and have less energy, I’m just finding it’s much easier to note the rhythms that tend to meet our needs best, and to build a life around that where we can, than to give away our agency over 100% of the way our days look, because that leads to burnout. What has your experience been with balancing these things?
Envious of your school bus! In our city, we have to get our kids to school on our own - though transit is free for kids, which is nice. I’ve been thinking a lot about the rhythms of my life and how to make everything work better. I’m noticing when I need to rest. I’m listening to myself more. Exercising, meditating, making time for friends. And definitely writing! It makes everything feel better. I’ve explored topics like learning to say no, setting boundaries with people who are just hard, figuring out my values and prioritizing self-understanding.
But also, I’ve pretty much been burnt out for the entire time I’ve been a parent!